Sex and intimacy · Two perspectives
Does intimacy feel good for both of you?
Start a conversation about sex and intimacy with eight free questions for couples about affection, desire, comfort, and expressing preferences.
Explore the 8 free questions ↓One relationship, two experiences
Intimacy can include sex, affectionate touch, feeling desired, and being able to talk about preferences. Your experiences may differ even when neither of you has said anything is missing. Use these questions as invitations to understand each other, with room to skip a question or say no to any activity.
8 questions: Sex and intimacy
Think about the last few weeks. Answer these prompts separately, then compare your answers. Use a specific example where you can, and ask what made an experience feel different for your partner. These conversation questions are free to use here, with no sign-up.
Which kinds of touch help you feel close to me?
Do you feel comfortable telling me what you enjoy?
What helps you feel desired without feeling pressured?
How do we respond when we want different amounts of sex or affection?
Can you say no or change your mind comfortably?
Is there anything about our intimate life you would like me to understand better?
How do tiredness, stress, or privacy affect closeness for you?
What kind of intimacy would you like more space for?
Turn one answer into a conversation
Each describe one kind of closeness you enjoy and one thing you would like to talk about. Keep requests open to an honest yes or no, and agree on a form of connection that feels welcome to both of you.
Find out how differently you and your partner experience it.
Go further with the free Pair Perspective couples assessment. Answer separately across all 14 relationship topics, then compare your perspectives and find a place to begin talking.
See an example of your resultsA reflection tool for conversation, not a diagnosis or a relationship verdict.