Communication · Two perspectives
Do you both feel heard in your relationship?
Compare how you experience communication in your relationship with eight free questions about listening, honesty, and expressing your needs.
Explore the 8 free questions ↓One relationship, two experiences
One person can feel that a conversation went well while the other leaves feeling unheard. Communication includes what happens after you speak: whether your partner asks questions, understands what matters to you, and follows up. Start with a recent everyday conversation so you can talk about something specific.
8 questions: Communication
Think about the last few weeks. Answer these prompts separately, then compare your answers. Use a specific example where you can, and ask what made an experience feel different for your partner. These conversation questions are free to use here, with no sign-up.
When did you last feel fully heard by me?
What makes it easier for you to say something difficult?
Do you usually want advice, reassurance, or listening when you share a problem?
Which need do you find hardest to put into words?
How do distractions affect our conversations?
Are there topics we keep putting off?
How do you know that I have understood you?
What small change would make our everyday conversations feel better?
Turn one answer into a conversation
Each choose one thing you want the other to understand. Let the listener summarize what they heard before offering advice, then check whether that summary matches what the speaker meant.
Find out how differently you and your partner experience it.
Go further with the free Pair Perspective couples assessment. Answer separately across all 14 relationship topics, then compare your perspectives and find a place to begin talking.
See an example of your resultsA reflection tool for conversation, not a diagnosis or a relationship verdict.