Relationship satisfaction · Two perspectives
How does your relationship feel to each of you right now?
Reflect on relationship satisfaction with eight free questions about everyday life together, what feels good, and what you would like to change.
Explore the 8 free questions ↓One relationship, two experiences
An overall impression can hide a mix of experiences. You might value your companionship and still feel worn down by practical responsibilities, or enjoy affection while avoiding a difficult decision. These questions help you name the parts behind your answer instead of reducing the relationship to a verdict.
8 questions: Relationship satisfaction
Think about the last few weeks. Answer these prompts separately, then compare your answers. Use a specific example where you can, and ask what made an experience feel different for your partner. These conversation questions are free to use here, with no sign-up.
What feels good about our relationship right now?
Which part of life together takes more energy than you would like?
When do you feel most at peace with us?
What makes you glad we are together?
What feels different from how you hoped our relationship would be?
Which part of our relationship would you most like us to give attention to?
What would you want to keep even if other things changed?
What small change would make the biggest difference to your everyday experience?
Turn one answer into a conversation
Each name something you want to keep and something you want to change. Choose one of the more specific topics below to explore the difference with concrete examples.
Find out how differently you and your partner experience it.
Go further with the free Pair Perspective couples assessment. Answer separately across all 14 relationship topics, then compare your perspectives and find a place to begin talking.
See an example of your resultsA reflection tool for conversation, not a diagnosis or a relationship verdict.